Wednesday, September 27
Always 70 and Sunny
Always 70 and Sunny

The Hard Way 10.3.20


23 gentleman started this Saturday in the gloom, with 1 of them (the Q) arriving 3 minutes late. As F3RVA always does, the beatdown commenced (without the Q), at 0600. YHC arrives and off we go into the darkness.

Beatdown=The Hard Way.

1 mile run

Line up on field for a progressive Beast. Run length of field stopping at the 25, 50, and 75 to perform six of called exercise. Continue to end and return stopping at same spots for six more of same exercises.

Round 1=merkins

Round 2=merkins, squats

Round 3=merkins, squats, carolina drydocks

Round 4=merkins, squats, carolina drydocks, lunges

Round 5, merkins, squats, carolina drydocks, lunges, WWII

Round 6=merkins, squats, carolina drydocks, lunges, WWII, burpees

Run 1 mile back to Shovel Flag.

Numberama, Namearama

YHC took us out in prayer.


Retreat this afternoon.

Shoe donations around F3RVA. See Gypsy for details.

Prayer requests for GP coworkers family.

Happy BDAY to Hitchhiker and thank you for Coffeteria this morning.

NMS : Pop would always tell us the Little League team, 100%, before each game. We all knew that he expected 100% effort during the game. As I grew older, I realized that Pop wasn’t just talking about baseball. Every aspect of our life requires 100% effort. Our family, kids, jobs, marriage, faith and ourselves. Gentleman, The Hard Way is more than a workout, it is a way of life. Remember, if you are having a bad day, not motivated, feeling depressed, or need encouragement, the men of F3RVA are ready, willing and able to assist. We need to just reach out. I can tell you from personal experiance, IT WORKS. The Hard way was inspired from the eulogy I delivered at my father’s funeral. As I do every year, I have included it below:

The Hard Way

Pop, Dad, Coach, Friend, Cadet, Marine.  These are just some of the names Dad answered too.  The operative word here is “Answer”.  Every time and for any reason, Dad would always answer a question or address a need.  Sometimes, you might not have liked the answer you received, just ask some of the umpires during his time coaching or I can certainly attest to not liking some of his answers to my questions. 

Everybody knows that Dad had his “own” way of doing things.  His “own” way was very particular and structured.  Some people may have the idea that Dad was stubborn or bull-headed.  Just like the rest of us, Dad may have been a little stubborn, but when it came to accomplishing a task, Dad knew only “The Hard Way”.

                Let me tell you a little about “The Hard Way”.  If Dad identified a task, or if a task was assigned to him, Dad would always approach a task the same structured way:

  • Every task was treated with the utmost seriousness.  No matter how small or large the task.  Each task was tackled with complete Commitment.
  • The accomplishment of every task started with precision planning.  This included what materials were needed and who was responsible for completing the necessary steps.  The plan was always adaptable depending on the situations that would develop during the course of the plan.
  • Carrying out the aforementioned plan was always performed with maximum effort.  Half-hearted effort was not tolerated.
  • Upon successful completion of the task, Dad displayed a humble pride.  Dad never boasted of his accomplishments.
  • On occasion, Dad would not complete a task successfully.  While that was not part of the plan, Dad would always learn from his mistakes and try to ensure that others would learn from his mistakes as well.

While I could further describe “The Hard Way”, I think everybody gets the picture that “The Hard Way” could also be described as “The Right Way”.

                Now that I have described “The Hard Way” a little, where did Dad learn “The Hard Way”?  Dad learned “The Hard Way” partly from the era he was born into and “The Hard Way” was definitely instilled in him at an early age through his family.  But Dad was absolutely exposed to the principles of “The Hard Way” in a formal fashion at The OLD John Marshall High School.  It was here as a member of the Cadet Corps, Company ‘F’, that he was enveloped in a setting that espoused, expected and demanded attributes such as : Duty, Honor, Country.  The young men of The Cadet Corp are expected to learn and incorporate attributes such as these in their teenage years.  A perfect illustration of what Dad learned as a member of the Cadet Corp is contained in the words of The Cadet Prayer.  A portion of The Cadet Prayer contains the following phrase:

                “…Encourage us in our endeavor to live above the common level of life.  Make us to choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong, and never be content with a half-truth when the whole can be won…”

                After high school, Dad enlisted in the United States Marine Corps.  It was here “The Hard Way” was literally drilled into every fiber of his being.  While in the Marine Corps, the following values were ingrained into Dad’s “The Hard Way”:

  • Honor This is the bedrock of our character. It is the quality that empowers Marines to exemplify the ultimate in ethical and moral behavior: to never lie, cheat, or steal; to abide by an uncompromising code of integrity; to respect human dignity; and to have respect and concern for each other. It represents the maturity, dedication, trust, and dependability that commit Marines to act responsibly, be accountable for their actions, fulfill their obligations, and hold others accountable for their actions.
  • Courage The heart of our Core Values, courage is the mental, moral, and physical strength ingrained in Marines that sees them through the challenges of combat and the mastery of fear, and to do what is right, to adhere to a higher standard of personal conduct, to lead by example, and to make tough decisions under stress and pressure. It is the inner strength that enables a Marine to take that extra step.
  • Commitment This is the spirit of determination and dedication within members of a force of arms that leads to professionalism and mastery of the art of war. It promotes the highest order of discipline for unit and self and is the ingredient that instills dedication to Corps and country 24 hours a day, pride, concern for others, and an unrelenting determination to achieve a standard of excellence in every endeavor. Commitment is the value that establishes the Marine as the warrior

and citizen others strive to emulate.

The integral part of the Marine Corps Values is that each and every Marine is expected to possess these values.  Not for the benefit of the individual Marine, but for the betterment of the Corps as a whole.

                After Dad’s active duty service to our country, Dad continued serving through the Marine Corps Reserve.  In addition to that, Dad did what was expected of a Marine, he gave “The Hard Way” away to those he associated with on a daily basis.  How did Dad give “The Hard Way” away?  By raising Michele and I in a caring, loving and demanding fashion.  By mentoring countless numbers of youngsters through coaching baseball and football in a manner that pushed us to our limits, all while teaching us valuable life lessons along the way.  By exhibiting dedication to his family and showing others the definition of support, as his wife battled cancer.  By demonstrating loyalty and adaptability by working for the Federal Reserve Bank of Richmond for 37 years.  I could continue for hours about how Dad exposed others to “The Hard Way”.

                It has been said that I am as strong-willed as Dad.  It took me many years into adulthood to realize that “The Hard Way” really is “The Right Way”.  In closing, I would like to share an anecdotal story.  Occasionally, I may make a smart alleck comment to Kay or I may act with a mannerism that resembles Dad.  Kay usually responds with “that sounds exactly like something your father would say” or “you are acting exactly like your father”.  May standard response is always the same and consists of two simple words : THANK YOU.

Happy Birthday Pop

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  1. Thanks for opportunity to lead this morning. Again, apologies for my tardiness. Way to push everyone.