26 men and 2 young ladies came to Dogpile to start the weekend The Hard Way. This is what we did:
Run a mile, stopping a couple of times for some exercises. (Fire Hydrants, LBCs or WWIIs)
End up at Carillon field for a The Hard Way. Run across field stopping at the 25, 50 and 75 yd line to perform six of the called exercise. Proceed to 100 yd line and return stopping at same points to perform called exercise.
Round 2-merkins, squats
Round 3-merkins, squats, WWIIs
Round 4-merkins, squats, WWIIs, Carolina Drydocks
Round 5-merkins, squats, WWIIs, Carolina Drydocks, Lunges
Round 6-merkins, squats, WWIIs, CArolina Drydocks, Lunges, Burpees
Run a mile stopping a couple of times for exercises. (LBCs, planks, run up backwards,)
5 MOM at flag.
Numberama, Namearama, 7-11 took us out.
Announcements-Run with Healing Place Saturday mornings-see Swiper. Marmaduke is collecting coats
NMS: Last year on what would have been my father’s 81st BDAY, YHC introduced The Hard Way to the F3RVA PAX. The Hard Way is a Thank You from my father for F3RVA honoring him at all the workouts the day after is death. The Hard Way is also a way for YHC to say Thank You to the F3RVA PAX for the friendship, fellowship and support during the time YHC was dealing with my father’s Alzheimer’s and death. As 7-11 said during the prayer, it is important for us to not seek the easy way of accomplishing a task. We need to approach our lives knowing that there is only The Right Way regarding our families, parenting, jobs, friendships,etc. I still draw much inspiration from my father, and last year I posted the eulogy I wrote and delivered at my father’s funeral. Sometimes, when I am having a bad day or face a tough decision, I re-read The Hard Way to settle my thoughts and realize the correct path to take. See below.
Happy Birthday POP.
The Hard Way
Pop, Dad, Coach, Friend, Cadet, Marine. These are just some of the names Dad answered too. The operative word here is “Answer”. Every time and for any reason, Dad would always answer a question or address a need. Sometimes, you might not have liked the answer you received, just ask some of the umpires during his time coaching or I can certainly attest to not liking some of his answers to my questions.
Everybody knows that Dad had his “own” way of doing things. His “own” way was very particular and structured. Some people may have the idea that Dad was stubborn or bull-headed. Just like the rest of us, Dad may have been a little stubborn, but when it came to accomplishing a task, Dad knew only “The Hard Way”.
Let me tell you a little about “The Hard Way”. If Dad identified a task, or if a task was assigned to him, Dad would always approach a task the same structured way:
- Every task was treated with the utmost seriousness. No matter how small or large the task. Each task was tackled with complete Commitment.
- The accomplishment of every task started with precision planning. This included what materials were needed and who was responsible for completing the necessary steps. The plan was always adaptable depending on the situations that would develop during the course of the plan.
- Carrying out the aforementioned plan was always performed with maximum effort. Half-hearted effort was not tolerated.
- Upon successful completion of the task, Dad displayed a humble pride. Dad never boasted of his accomplishments.
- On occasion, Dad would not complete a task successfully. While that was not part of the plan, Dad would always learn from his mistakes and try to ensure that others would learn from his mistakes as well.
While I could further describe “The Hard Way”, I think everybody gets the picture that “The Hard Way” could also be described as “The Right Way”.
Now that I have described “The Hard Way” a little, where did Dad learn “The Hard Way”? Dad learned “The Hard Way” partly from the era he was born into and “The Hard Way” was definitely instilled in him at an early age through his family. But Dad was absolutely exposed to the principles of “The Hard Way” in a formal fashion at The OLD John Marshall High School. It was here as a member of the Cadet Corps, Company ‘F’, that he was enveloped in a setting that espoused, expected and demanded attributes such as : Duty, Honor, Country. The young men of The Cadet Corp are expected to learn and incorporate attributes such as these in their teenage years. A perfect illustration of what Dad learned as a member of the Cadet Corp is contained in the words of The Cadet Prayer. A portion of The Cadet Prayer contains the following phrase:
“…Encourage us in our endeavor to live above the common level of life. Make us to choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong, and never be content with a half-truth when the whole can be won…”
After high school, Dad enlisted in the United States Marine Corps. It was here “The Hard Way” was literally drilled into every fiber of his being. While in the Marine Corps, the following values were ingrained into Dad’s “The Hard Way”:
- Honor This is the bedrock of our character. It is the quality that empowers Marines to exemplify the ultimate in ethical and moral behavior: to never lie, cheat, or steal; to abide by an uncompromising code of integrity; to respect human dignity; and to have respect and concern for each other. It represents the maturity, dedication, trust, and dependability that commit Marines to act responsibly, be accountable for their actions, fulfill their obligations, and hold others accountable for their actions.
- CourageThe heart of our Core Values, courage is the mental, moral, and physical strength ingrained in Marines that sees them through the challenges of combat and the mastery of fear, and to do what is right, to adhere to a higher standard of personal conduct, to lead by example, and to make tough decisions under stress and pressure. It is the inner strength that enables a Marine to take that extra step.
- Commitment This is the spirit of determination and dedication within members of a force of arms that leads to professionalism and mastery of the art of war. It promotes the highest order of discipline for unit and self and is the ingredient that instills dedication to Corps and country 24 hours a day, pride, concern for others, and an unrelenting determination to achieve a standard of excellence in every endeavor. Commitment is the value that establishes the Marine as the warrior and citizen others strive to emulate.
The integral part of the Marine Corps Values is that each and every Marine is expected to possess these values. Not for the benefit of the individual Marine, but for the betterment of the Corps as a whole.
After Dad’s active duty service to our country, Dad continued serving through the Marine Corps Reserve. In addition to that, Dad did what was expected of a Marine, he gave “The Hard Way” away to those he associated with on a daily basis. How did Dad give “The Hard Way” away? By raising Michele and I in a caring, loving and demanding fashion. By mentoring countless numbers of youngsters through coaching baseball and football in a manner that pushed us to our limits, all while teaching us valuable life lessons along the way. By exhibiting dedication to his family and showing others the definition of support, as his wife battled cancer. By demonstrating loyalty and adaptability by working for the Federal Reserve Bank of Richmond for 37 years. I could continue for hours about how Dad exposed others to “The Hard Way”.
It has been said that I am as strong-willed as Dad. It took me many years into adulthood to realize that “The Hard Way” really is “The Right Way”. In closing, I would like to share an anecdotal story. Occasionally, I may make a smart alleck comment to Kay or I may act with a mannerism that resembles Dad. Kay usually responds with “that sounds exactly like something your father would say” or “you are acting exactly like your father”. May standard response is always the same and consists of two simple words : THANK YOU.